But try to use these occasions simply to learn about someone else's world and life. Perfect." If you've got a long list of sterling qualities, characteristics and lifestyle criteria, you are going to have a tough time finding anyone who's good enough for you. And remember to stay positive: If you want to find a new partner and you're willing to work at it, you definitely will!
Dating isn't always fun — it can even be heartbreaking if you are entranced by someone and it isn't mutual. But if you have reasonable list expectations — for example, you want to meet a good person who is fun to be with and who shares your values and goals — you'll have an easier time.
If you are feeling unhappy, you won't be able to provide any of these.
If your mood is bringing you down, it will bring others down too.
But showing some respect for your appearance will reflect better on you than sloppy grooming, wrinkled or ill fitting clothes and a dangerous body weight.