It was lovely being out sans Jack, having a cold beer at the bar, surrounded by other adults enjoying drinks, conversation, and music. I videotaped their answers, transcribed what they said, and here’s what I got: “It’s not the ideal situation for me.
Single Mom Souvenir: This guy reminds you that there is a sexy, passionate beast living inside you, and prompts a much-needed lingerie makeover. In his spare time, he takes ballroom dance lessons and reads books about ballroom dancing, which you try to feign interest in but it's just not there. He's been married a few times, traveled the world and is a successful entrepreneur with a vintage motorcycle.
A loner, he shows up at your door at the first sign of a text from you, yet is man enough to stand in the shadows when you cry over his former BFF, a.k.a. His poems have taught him that heartbreak is temporary. European with a penchant for scarves (even in summer), he stands up when you leave the table at a restaurant and takes you places you long dreamed of going -- Milan, Buenos Aires, Prague -- but never with your kids.
I would just be really cautious about getting close to the kid, because if it didn’t work out, I’d feel bad if the kid got attached, then hurt.” “I think it would be a pain.
My friend dated a single mom and she was always breaking plans because of childcare issues, or suggesting he just come over and watch a movie. Maybe she’s like my friend and had a baby after just dating someone. I dated a single mom who had a lot of issues with her ex and I found that I got sucked into a lot of drama.
Before we said goodbye, he asked if I wanted to hang out again… A brief flirtation and fiery cocktail was all I really desired. He was not the first, nor the last, guy who embraced that not-so-insignificant detail. Things get real, fast, when you’re dating with a baby. I sought advice on a popular Single Mom by Choice Facebook group that had always been helpful in the past. When it came to raising my daughter, I could make whatever choices I wanted. The hilarious, life-affirming things babies do can be so heartwarming and surreal that it occasionally felt counterintuitive to experience those happy-tear moments in isolation.