A former client emailed me yesterday to say that he’s planning on getting engaged.With his note, he sent a link to this article, from the New York Times’ Modern Love series.Most guys are not going to turn down a decent (or even not so decent in some cases) looking chick that is clearly into him- whether it’s because he’s bored, or horny or just doesn’t want to ‘hurt her feelings’ (i put it in quotes cause if a guy isn’t into a girl, it’s not a matter of if he’ll hurt her feelings but really when).
By "some time," I don't mean a few days or a week... I know that sounds like a long time, but here's my reasoning: it's normal to feel like you want your ex back immediately after a relationship ends. But if a month passes by and you still want to be with this person just as much as you did the day after the breakup, that means that maybe things just aren't finished between you two yet. You both need a good amount of time alone to figure things out on your own before deciding you want to get back together Source: Shutter Stock want and what's most important to you. Don't make these expectations too big, though (if they are, that's a sign maybe you guys shouldn't get back together).
For example: maybe you want him to hang with your friends more or call you more often. Source: Shutter Stock Most of the time, your friends are generally going to encourage you to stay away from an ex in an attempt to help you.
But they are in for a really bad surprise when they stop chasing and find that their love interest isn’t so interested after all. Evan’s advice a while ago said it best- give him a chance to act, to do something, to show some interest, and take it from there.
One dating rule that you probably hear a lot is to never get back together with your ex.
Think about it: do you really miss your ex or do you just miss being in a relationship?