A 17 year old boy said, “they have a responsibility to develop the relationship after they know the relationship with the parent is going to go somewhere”.
That is all you should be looking for; not I want to be cool, whatever it takes. ’ And the ways that that can happen is being yourself, not trying super hard to impress us.
Kids are not stupid; they know when you are being someone you are not.” No.
They were certainly not comfortable when the parent compared the new partner with their divorced spouse.
Be careful of the message you send when you bring a new partner in too quickly and denounce your previous marriage; it sends mixed messages to your already confused children.
Time has to be given to the transition of adjusting to this new person.