Or you try to leave the situation but always end up returning to it. Through whatever you do together – eating, traveling, working, talking – the connection strengthens. Soul ties can be formed by the words of your mouth. Think of what it really means when you say statements such as: “I will never stop loving you.” “You will always be the only one I love.” “I will never get you out of my heart.” “You’re the only one I will ever give my love to.” “Nobody will ever take your place in my life.” Can you just imagine how much power these words yield? Soul ties are formed any time and every time there is intimacy in a relationship. Soul ties prevent us from moving on to new relationships, even the ones God may be leading us into. The divorce is over, a new marriage is pursued, but one spouse keeps being drawn back to his or her ex-husband or ex-wife. James 1:8 says, “A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways.” A double-minded person is one with a divided soul. Do you want to move on with your life but are struck in random moments of missing your ex-boyfriend?
Maybe you have been in an intimate relationship with someone and although you know it’s wrong and you want to please God, you simply cannot resist the desire to stay involved with them. You have soul ties with your coworkers, your family members, your children, your classmates. In that instance, it opens an opportunity for Satan to work on your behalf, and his evil power is intensified. The Bible says that we can be “snared” by the words of our mouth: “You are snared by the words of your mouth; you are taken by the words of your mouth” (Proverbs 6:2 NKJV). Your very own words could be keeping you trapped to a bad soul tie, which explains why you feel like something is pulling on you, preventing you from fully going forward. You may have ended a physically intimate relationship months ago, but you still feel a pull toward that person. This is being double -minded and not something God wants you to experience.
This resonance is a particular quality that is difficult to replicate, and can resound to take up the missing space of family of origin, or ease our dissatisfaction with our dating life.
While romance is uncertain, our friendships are slated to remain stable, although there remains the intrigue of a potential hook up with a friend.
Jonathan’s and David’s souls were tied together in a way that God blessed. If He is prompting you to end a relationship that you’re tied to, then you need to end it. He will remind you day and night of all the good times, the fun times, the laughter, and torment you into thinking you cannot live without this person. You decide your habits, your habits will decide your future. And listen to this: there will come a day when you will no longer miss that person.