It shouldn't have been a surprise that the men who contacted me would be the same. What I learned is that there are three questions many men ask themselves when viewing your profile usually in this order: 1. At best you look ashamed to be online, at worst, like a crazy recluse with nobody willing to take your photo. Are you leaning against a wall with your butt sticking out? Also, don't post photos where you cut out your ex-boyfriend people can always tell. Another option is to post a photo where you're out with a friend (just one, not a crowd) looking happy and social.
It turns out that I made the same mistake most girls do when they first go online. Are you half naked with your hands caressing your hair? You had your hair and make-up done, and the professional photography is awesome. Here's what the guys hear you saying: All my friends are married but me. Think of your photos as the cover of your autobiography.
I went through my photos and posted the ones where I thought I looked pretty. Are you pouting for the camera like you're on the cover of ? You want to make yourself as appealing as you can to the widest selection of men possible.
Sure, you're a sexual person, but save that for someone you like. This way it's in your power to choose whom to date and with whom you share your personal details.
You can flaunt your feminine side as well to make those men swoon!