Between juggling work, marriage, kids, and everything else adult life entails, forming new friendships can feel daunting. Here's how 13 women found their best pals — and how you can too! While she had a tight-knit group of pals back in Kansas City, Carrie has yet to find any girlfriends in her new town. "Just being with my family doesn't make me feel 100-percent complete." And even though Carrie has found a few neighborhood pals, she still hasn't found "the one" — a friend she feels truly at ease with and can confide in.When Carrie Stallwitz relocated to Houston from Kansas City four years ago, the 37-year-old says she had almost everything she could want: a solid marriage, two healthy young daughters, and a career as a freelance public relations consultant. "I want someone who could pop by on a Friday evening for a glass of wine, just to talk about our daily lives or the last episode of 24," she says.
"I'm inviting them to a wine night at my house," she says. I think it takes work to cultivate new friendships." Carrie's right: It does take work to find new best girlfriends.
And it can feel especially tough when you're juggling your career and your family and you no longer have the luxury of aimlessly hanging out with people for hours like you did when you were younger.
We have dinner once a week, hang out on weekends, and talk on the phone every day." Sarah: "At the concert, I remember thinking, Wow, this girl is so cool — she doesn't mind at all that my friend is invading her space! My memory is a little different, though — after the concert, she called me first; I remember being surprised that she actually followed up.
I think we both felt casual about it, like there was no pressure since we didn't know each other well yet.
Now, two years later, Lori says that their friendship is "less about what we have in common and more that our lives are intertwined."Kristen Kayross, 26, financial reports officer; Sarah Cook, 27, dental hygienist; Austin, TX Kristen: "I'd been living in Austin for a year with my 4-year-old son, but I still didn't have any close girlfriends.